Should My Partner Have My Password???

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Hello lovelies,  

We have a feature here on EasyLivingDose that gives everyone an equal opportunity to ask us anything from the ordinary to extraordinary.  We promise to treat every question with as much finesse as we can gather and with the utmost confidentiality unless otherwise agreed upon my the person.

Today's question is from one of our Facebook followers and desires anonymity. Here is her question:

IS IT OKAY TO GIVE MY PASSWORD TO MY BOYFRIEND?

Our Take:

In all honesty,  we've been told right from when we became ripe for relationships that trust is  essential if we want our relationships to work. I bet it was easier for our grandparents because technology had little interference with their lives. We on the other hand are constantly subjected into being partakers of one or more technological advancements. We are tempted to buy and try out  the newest and latest tech accessory in the market in other fit in or belong. Failure to get with the program lands us in the 'old people' table. The truth is nobody wants to endure that tag as it might very well be the curse of your social life if you have any.

Relationships are built on TRUST. That is beginning to sound like a broken record but think of it this way, you want loyalty, honesty, and undying love from the people you care about.  You want love, but love is not enough if there's no trust.

Now with the insignificant amount of attention we pay to our cellphones and social media accounts which I consider quite the rude behaviour especially when we are in the midst of people and are meant to be socialising.  Nowadays,  our faces are everlastingly staring down at our phone screens. It makes one wonder if we are all in fact guilty with having an affair with our devices. Afterall, one of the things that we look out for in a partner is his/her ability to make us laugh. On that note, our phone screens get rightly qualified. Believe me. I have seen more people laugh at their phone screen that they've managed in real life!

Since TRUST plays such a pivotal role in our relationships I would think that it should be enough to keep your partner secure and grounded in that relationship. Asking for the password of a boyfriend or girlfriend, partner, husband or wife whether there's anything to hide or not, is like literally waking up the sleeping dog. Let him lie will ya? It will be safer and saner for all involved.  If you suspect anything shady from your partner's obsession with his phone screen,  confrontation devoid of anger and hostility is always the best road to take. Being nosy, insecure and obsessive which will in turn lead to paranoia will only ruin the relationship you've worked so hard to build.

We are all entitled to our individualism.  That's what makes us so unique. Respect and celebrate that difference. I strongly am of the opinion that everyone should have their dirty or saintly little secrets tucked away so long as that 'secret' is harmless to others.  So it's a NO to give or ask for your partner's password but if you are both adult enough to handle what will come from having each other's password,  the good, the bad and the ugly, then kudos to you. But don't say we didn't warn ya. Caution ⚠ Danger ahead.

Hope you got the answer you wanted, if not feel free to contribute in the comment session below.  And don't forget to follow the blog. Send your questions to myeasylivingdose@gmail.com
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Catch up soon,
Xoxo
T.D.A

NB: We are in no way undermining the importance of sharing in relationships. We respect its position and advice our readers to do so as long as sharing is not mistaken for  oversharing.