12 Reasons Why You Are Still Single?

Aloha,

It is true that we all crave to be in a relationship with the opposite sex or not (pun intended)  but either way, we want closeness, affection, love, care and to be someone's priority.

If you are a believer of God like me, then we agree that the act of 'being in a relationship' was God's intention for us as humans to coexist in peace and harmony,  shared affection and love for one another.

But we are not all lucky in our quest to find that one person who knows us more that we know ourselves.  That guy/girl who makes our hearts skip in bits at the sound of their voice. Life is more reality than a fairytale. There's no Prince Charming waiting at the ball or a Cinderella leaving behind a pair of glass slipper.

We all want love damn it! We chase, cry and sometimes hurt over it like our lives depend on it. But we must not be ashamed for wanting to love and be loved. It is infact our legitimate right!

That brings me to the question.  Why are you still single?  Your girlfriends and the guys all have date nights planned. They are going to the movies and always refer to each other as "the one" while you sit and watch.  The pressure from family and friends isn't helping.  You are getting a bit depressed or lonely.  This is a question that borders on self.  You could be single for different reasons and most of it might have everything to do with you.

Here are just a few reasons why you might still be in the market. 

1. You are going after the wrong guy/girl
You know that thing that we do when we've created an idea about what we think is best for us in our heads. We want the best looking guy/girl in the room. The one that will make our friends jealous. The problem is, he/she knows they can get whoever they want, so we become part of the statistics instead of being "the one"

2. Too High Standards

Setting standards for ourselves is a brilliant idea only if these standards are within the realm of reality. But when these standards are too high it becomes a hindrance to you. Landing a high earner isn't a sure pass for happiness in a union. Standards should be based on character.  Like does he or she respect me?

3. Not taking care of yourself

If you don't love yourself enough to take care of you, no one will.

4. Mr./Miss Argument 

You don't have to have the last say.  You don't have to always be the one to be heard. You don't have to win every argument.  You can take a stand without wanting to be the winner. 

5. You are too damned negative 

Nobody wants a negative person in their lives. If you can't find anything positive to say or do then you are looking to be single till eternity. 

6. Insecurity 

If you aren't secure in yourself, that's a sure Way to keep others away.

7.Mr./Miss Know-it-all  

Showing off is the quickest way to put off people who wants to get close to you.

8. You are too needy

If you are dependent on other people for everything,  then chances are, you will chase people away. Be independent minded as well as understanding towards the needs of others. Respect the other persons space.

9. You don't listen enough 

If you merely filter through what other people are saying to you, you will end up losing that person. Learn to really listen. And act on what you hear.

10. You are too desperate 

Yes we get it, your friends are all married or about to. That doesn't mean you have to advertise your desperation to the next available suitor. Don't jump right into playing the mommy or Daddy role for any one you've just met.

11. Say goodbye to the ex/past and mean it

If you are still hung up on your ex, past relationships, you are only setting yourself up for emotional chaos. Let the past be in the past. Genuinely make peace with your past and move on.

12. You can't be bear to be alone
People want to be with secure people.  If you are constantly in relationships after another,  you might be asking for it.

For those of us who found it earlier in life and fought for it, kudos to couples who've been together for years! And for those who gave up on bad romances,  kudos to you too. We hope you find your happiness.  EasyLivingDose truly cares. So feel free to hit us up.

All my love,
xoxo
T.D.A